Since the advent of coaching, there have been many applications. One of the most original and controversial is life coaching. Helping a person solve everyday problems can dramatically change their life. But in the case of an amateur approach, life coaching can only worsen the situation by steering a person in a completely inappropriate direction. This begs the reasonable question, is there a need for life coaching? Is it easier to do without it? Why then do tens of thousands of people hire life coaches? How do you choose a specialist? Let’s answer these questions in order.
Who is a life coach?
A life coach is a person who helps his client to harmonize his life, to fill it with meaning and joy, to understand his goals and desires. The dynamic rhythm of life often distracts us from knowing our inner world. It is even more difficult to develop harmoniously, and not only in those directions that seem important. Sometimes it comes out that a person in his development resembles a giant with huge hands, but on very thin legs. This is a figurative comparison, but a telling one.
Life coaching is aimed at ensuring that people develop in different ways. Otherwise it will be like with the giant mentioned above – the biceps are huge, but you can barely walk. What’s the use of strong arms? Lagging behind in certain areas of life is what pushes a person to turn to a life coach. After all, in pursuit of material goods and recognition, a person can forget about personal life, family, friends. Even worse, when it is not even his conscious choice, but a way of life imposed by others. Gradually he is so weaned from everything human that it is like a desert island.
Life coaching simply “opens his eyes” to the real world and makes him “humanize”. After all, you can’t make all the money. Health, family and good mood should be no less of a priority than career and finances.
What is life coaching?
Life coaching is a type of coaching designed to fill a client’s life with joy, fullness and harmony. Life coaching should not be confused with psychology. The fundamental difference between them is the direction of work. If a psychologist tries to find the cause of a problem by going deeper into a person’s past, a life coach should help to achieve the goal, working with the present and the future. In this he resembles a fitness trainer who does not need to know why the client is fat and weak. It is important for him to make sure that the client becomes strong and muscular.
Life coaching should not be confused with consulting, mentoring, or training. Unlike these, a life coach is supposed to realize the hidden potential of the client himself, not to give him his experience and knowledge. This is the “zest” of coaching: collaboration rather than mentoring or teaching.
But this does not mean that a life coach should not have the same qualifications as a psychologist or business consultant. He may need an even greater arsenal of skills or knowledge in order to provide qualified support. Therefore, life coaching involves training that lasts longer than many other coaching courses.
Specialists in this field should not be self-taught. They are trained and certified by ICF, the International Coaching Federation. It unites thousands of followers from 50 countries. Life coaching training takes from 60 to 200 hours of theory and at least 100 hours of practice. Only after completing this training is the applicant allowed to call himself a coach and issued a certificate.
Otherwise, a person may not have the necessary level of training and simply will not be able to provide quality assistance. Even worse is if such an amateur hurts a client. When choosing a life coach, you should pay careful attention to his education and track record.
When is it worth turning to a life coach?
The dynamic rhythm of life very often brings a person to a standstill. Everyday depression and collapse of energy, setbacks at work or in personal life sometimes become such a serious problem that one cannot do without help. The main thing to remember is that a life coach is not a psychologist, and especially not a psychiatrist. You should not be ashamed of his help. After all, without support, there may be clinical conditions that only specialists from a psychiatric hospital can cope with.
In what cases, it is worth the decision to take such a step:
- Loss of meaning and reference points in life;
Nothing happens, the days become gray and monotonous;
Failing to achieve your goals;
Something is missing, but what it is is not clear;
The feeling of happiness and joy is gone;
A person is constantly in a state of stress;
Problems in personal life or at work;
Difficulty communicating with others;
Unrealized desire to become more effective;
Futility of the job available.
Some might argue that such services are not cheap. And the treatment of diseases resulting from constant depression? And alcohol and other unhealthy habits that are used to combat stress? And the shortfall in income due to “empty hands” and working without dedication? Has anyone ever counted how much money is lost because of all this?
Perhaps a small contribution to your success and well-being will pay off a hundredfold in the future? So, don’t view the help of a life coach as a monetary expenditure. It is better to interpret this step as a necessary investment in your self-development and well-being. Especially if you can’t figure it out for yourself.
Thus, life coaching is an unusual direction, but very promising. It requires no less preparation and dedication than other professional fields such as psychology or consulting. Life coaching is able to change a person’s life for the better, but on the condition of competence on the part of the performer. In order to master life coaching, it will take a long time to learn. But the result will also be a sought-after and very rewarding profession.